Healing is not linear. No one is 100% healed. We go backward and forward, and sometimes we’re all over the place, but that’s the process.
This journey is different for everyone. We’ve all been hurt in different ways, we’re all moving at our own pace, and we all require different amounts of time to heal.
What matters, is that we’ve all made the decision to let it go. To accept. To want to heal.
There are going to be days where you wake up and you feel happy and alive. And there are also going to be days where it feels like everything seems to be upside down, where the hurt resurfaces, where your chest tightens, your heart starts to ache. There will be days when the simple tasks don’t feel so simple. And this can be hard to sit with. It can make you question your healing.
But the truth is, healing happens in waves. It is a process and a lifelong journey. We aren’t ever actually void of the experience or the memory. But slowly, we learn how to control the way these affect us, we learn how to approach the bad days. We learn how to accept our feelings.
Every single day has a sunrise and a sunset. Has the light and the dark. Similarly, your life must go through its own periods of light and darkness. In some seasons of our life, the darkness will predominate the light, and in others, the light it’s predominant. Just know that these periods, of light and darkness, will not permanently prevail.
You won’t feel this way forever. There will be a new beginning and a new and stronger you to face the world.
And when the hard days arrive, give your body and mind rest. There’s should not exist stigma around taking a day off when your mind doesn’t feel good. If you just can’t do it today, that’s okay. You have tomorrow. Take the time you need to rest, to find inspiration, to remember all the little things that make you happy. Normalize accepting this and stop forcing yourself to “just get through it” when you know deep down your mind needs a break. Just take care of yourself.
Sometimes, healing consists of laying down in your bed all day, sometimes healing is writing what you’re feeling, sometimes healing is laughing, sometimes healing is exercising… Whatever your healing looks like today, whatever it consists of, just allow it to be what it is.
And remember that healing yourself will ask more of you.
More letting go.
More honesty about how you feel.
More faith in yourself and the process.
Please don’t think you need to be 100% healed to deserve love and good things in life, because you absolutely do.
“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”
If you’re in a healing process you can always read the post “6 Steps on How to Heal Yourself“. I really hope this could help you in some way.
Sending you so much love and strength ❤