Growing up is really weird and while it’s an exciting time it can also be pretty uncomfortable.
I’m currently in my twenties, I’m 24, and there’s a lot to navigate with this topic.
You start having a lot of changes. And changing is scary, whether it’s moving out, whether it’s finishing high school or college, starting a family, starting a new life, getting married, starting a job,… Any big life change is terrifying. And when you start having these changes, you might have these thoughts: “I’m getting older“, “This isn’t all fun and games anymore.”, “I am actually an adult now”.
So many of us as children were so excited to grow up. All we could think about is being 18, coming an adult, and not being a kid anymore. And we don’t realize that until we’re not kids anymore and we start realizing that this is actually hard.
And this is not to scare anyone but I’m just saying what I feel and based on my own experience. Because sometimes growing up and moving out for the first time is so romanticized that we start having all of these expectations and we realize that it’s not as easy as it seems.
l am already not living with my parents, and let me tell you, this is really fun, I have the opportunity to create my own life, but there’s so much more than that. You never fully value something until it’s gone. When I was in my parent’s house, I couldn’t wait to move out to my own place, and then, once I did it, despite being an exciting time, I didn’t realize how much I was going to miss it.
To anyone in high school or maybe in college and you’re reading this, remember this: when I was in high school, I was always looking forward to the next thing, to going to college, starting a job, moving out. This is obviously very exciting and it’s good to have things to look forward to, but sometimes when you’re looking too much into the future, you forget about the life you already have in the present moment.
We’re constantly worried about the next step and the next. When you’re in high school, you can’t wait to go to college, and then when you were in college you can’t wait to graduate, to be done with school forever, and when you finish college, or if you don’t go to college, high school, and then school is over, you maybe start question yourself “what am I doing with my life?”, “what career am I going to pursue?”, “what am I going to do with the rest of my life?”.
You have to figure out what you’re doing next and that’s a really scary thing because I don’t think a lot of people know, I don’t even know sometimes what I’m going to do next. And that’s completely okay.
I feel like once you get to a certain age, maybe in your twenties, is when you start experiencing the feeling that there’s this unwarranted feeling of rushing things.
People start asking when you get are getting married, when you want to have kids, start affirming that by this age you should be secure in your career making money, that you should have a house, or this or that. And I know that’s hard to have this kind of pressure all the time, you start feeling like a failure in a way because you don’t have it all figured out yet. And you don’t have to. I don’t have it either.
There are so many different directions that life can go in and you’re going to have so many different choices in life. And everyone can’t live the same life. Everyone has different paths and timelines. And that’s the beauty of life.
If you are going through this transition, never forget these reminders:
- No one has all the answers. You’re going to spend a lot of time figuring things out.
- Be kind with your own process
- Time is precious, don’t waste it.
- Don’t let other people’s opinions guide your life.
- You will face rejections. But that doesn’t mean you’re not good or a failure.
- Life is not a linear line, there are all these ups and downs. You may feel confused from time to time but that’s okay.
- If it won’t matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it.
I could talk about this topic for hours but I think that’s all for today. (You can buy my ebook if want to read more about this topic, about my life’s experiences, advice, tips, and so on).
What’s your biggest fear about growing up? And what are you most excited about?
See you in the next week, love you all ❤