Be the Best Version of Yourself: Advice Column

In the past few years, I think I experienced a lot of stuff so I would like to give you my advice on some things and share my thoughts on them. So, I post on my Instagram story a question box with some advice you want me to answer. I took some of those responses and I decided to write a little advice column.

Anyways let’s go ahead and get into this advice:

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• What to do when I don’t feel like myself?

I think the main reason you may not feel like yourself is the lack of time you leave for yourself. You will only feel whole if there’s a perfect balance and you make time for your passions. But just know that you are always changing and you’re going to change your personality, your interests. You’re growing up and that’s okay. Just make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons and that you’re doing it naturally not to please someone else.

Get out of your comfort zone, try new things, explore new places, get back in touch with the things you loved to do as a child, meet new people, take a social media break, and do what you love. Set some healthy boundaries. You will find yourself again by regaining your power through the belief that you are enough, loved, and capable. And you don’t have to empty yourself for the sake of others, especially when the sacrifice is losing yourself completely. It’s one of the most powerful things that you can do so take that advice.

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• How to deal with stress? 

I’m still working on this one just as much so I don’t really know how good my advice here is but be willing to take that time for yourself. When you start feeling overwhelmed and stressed focus on taking time for yourself, for self-care. And don’t think that you’re wasting time because you are not. You need to pause to be your best self. 

Try out some breathing exercises, they can affect your entire body by reducing stress, and tension and help you to relax. Read, journal, talk with someone about the things that are stressing you out, go for a walk while you listen to a podcast, exercise. Just be kind to your mind and body.

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• How to deal with being left out?

It’s not a fun thing to feel or to go through but here’s how I see it: if there are people who don’t want you around that is their loss, it’s not yours and you get to take this time to really get in touch with yourself, to discover more about yourself so that you can discover who you actually want around you. Just be aware that it is not your loss. You don’t want people around you that don’t want you to or don’t respect you. And I know it’s a hard pill to swallow but it’s the truth.

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• How to accept weight gain?

Our bodies are constantly changing. Weight fluctuation it’s completely normal. 

Don’t starve yourself just because you gained a few pounds. Food is good and food is beautiful and you deserve to eat what you want. Don’t weigh yourself. Or get rid of the scale. When you gain weight, it’s easy to hyper-focus on the number on the scale. But a much better way to feel more comfortable in your body is to focus on how you feel—not how you look. The number on the scale is irrelevant. What matters is how you feel and if you feel good and if you feel energized whatever that number is does not matters.

Be grateful to have a body. A body to walk, dance, travel, swim, to hang out with people you love. So take care of it. 

I’ve written a post about learning to love your body, you can read it here.

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• How to set healthy boundaries?

Setting healthy boundaries is an important act of self-care. Also, personal boundaries are absolutely necessary for forming healthy relationships, feeling safe, and maintaining overall wellbeing. 

Say “no” without guilt, take care of yourself, say “yes” because you want to, not to please others, express yourself and your emotions, know who you are, what you believe, what you like, limit your social media consumption. Healthy boundaries mean knowing and understanding what your limits are. 

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• How to start loving myself?

Ask yourself: what’s stopping me from loving myself? What do I need to do? Change something or accept it?

But keep in mind that you aren’t perfect, nobody is. Practice self-care. Make time to do things for yourself. Fall in love with taking care of yourself, and fall in love with becoming the best version of yourself with patience, compassion, and respect for your own journey. But I’ve written a blog post all about this topic. You can read it here.

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• How to not give up?

Life has its ups and downs, laughter and cries, and many things in between. No one’s life is perfect and when life throws you down it is obvious to feel upset. The most important thing is not to stay down, but to get back up. And if it’s important to you, don’t give up.

Focus on why you want it and don’t lose sight of it. Wake up every day and decide to do the best you can. Be the best you can be.

Make a list of small steps or goals you need to do to get closer to achieving your dream. Put it somewhere you will see it every day. Let it motivate you.

Don’t wait for an opportunity to fall into your lap. Create your own opportunities. Make things happen. 

Don’t let others tear you down, or make you feel like your dream isn’t important.

Sometimes you will think you can’t take it another day. But if you hang in there, one step at a time, you will be able to accomplish more than you ever imagine.

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That’s all for today. This was a very different post but I hope you enjoyed it!

If you liked this post, tell me if you’d like to see more of them and if you have any questions for more advice let me know in the comments down below, or you can email me if you don’t feel comfortable sharing them here.

See you next week. Sending you all the love and good vibes ❤️